I was busy ‘attending’ to my writing (was actually thinking hard of a particular meaning of a word at the time), when suddenly I sensed someone walking towards to where I was sitting, I was in Starbucks cafe. When that person was finally in front of me, I looked up and this guy tilted his head down a bit to my eye level (I was sitting on a low sofa) and he candidly asked in Hokkien – ‘Can you recognise me?’. I could not but he seemed rather familiar though.
Then he continued – ‘Form Six – Han Chiang High School, remember? I was with this group of friends......’. He mentioned a few names that I know. Then, instantly I recalled – he was my ex-classmate of 2 years when we were studying in Form Six! And boy, did he really changed – his appearance but more obvious, was his confidence level. I remembered he was always being teased during school for his small dark skinny stature and his looks and he was conscious of it.
November 21, 2008
Since then, I had realised (not that I never knew before, but in much deeper context now) that :
- Human relations especially between men and women (romantically) are pretty complicated and utterly unpredictable. There will always be differences in ‘wants’ and ‘needs’. Both in this case will be united only for a major reason – LOVE, and ironically, the same word is also involved if both choose to separate, but this time it’s OUT-OF-LOVE.
- Human relations between parent(s) and children are undeniably strong and attached – emotionally, physically, mentally and perhaps spiritually. Whether or not, the relationship is on good terms is another matter, the attachment and bond will still affect and influence the child till old.
- Human relations between friends on platonic basis (in this case, friends of same gender) are fickle. Close friendships can be formed just about anywhere, anytime, anyhow – when common interests and values are shared. We will click and perhaps start to form a clique. But however strong the foundation of a friendship may be, it still remain forever fragile, and would disintegrate in a blink of an eye – with usually 2 reasons as the common culprit - JEALOUSY (of any aspect, usually money and status) and the involvement of a third party – a BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND had emerged – Eros blinds everything.